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The Essence of Leadership: Character, Growth, and Legacy

Leadership: A Responsibility, Not Just a Title Leadership is more than a title—it’s a profound responsibility that requires introspection, growth, and, at times, transformation. Over time, I’ve realized that if I want to see meaningful change, I can’t simply critique leadership from the sidelines. We all play a role in shaping leadership, and this doesn’t always mean leading from the front. Sometimes, it’s about making a difference from where you are—whether that’s in advisory roles, committees, or behind the scenes. As women, we’ve often been conditioned to avoid leadership roles, but as society evolves, more women are stepping into leadership positions across various fields. With this change comes the opportunity to shape a leadership style that resonates with who we are and reflects the qualities that define us as women. For me, the journey to embracing leadership has required confronting my biases and reflecting on my values. Women and Leadership: Embracing Authenticity Growing up, I often avoided teams led by women, a sentiment I realize was shared by many other women. Interestingly, I’ve never heard men express a similar reluctance toward male leadership. However, this bias isn’t rooted in gender itself but in the leadership traits we’ve observed or find lacking in both men and women. Women in leadership sometimes mirror the negative traits historically criticized in men, such as authoritarianism, a lack of empathy, or verbal aggression. These behaviors can be particularly challenging to accept when exhibited by someone of the same gender. Yet, as more women take on leadership roles, I’ve realized that it’s essential to reclaim the strengths we uniquely possess: empathy, compassion, humility, and a nurturing spirit. These qualities are not weaknesses but strengths that can help define a leadership style that is authentic and effective. However, this commitment also requires introspection. Are we truly prepared for leadership? Are we aligning our actions and intentions with the qualities of a good leader? Before stepping into any role, it’s important to assess our readiness, not just for the position but for the responsibility that comes with it. Leadership isn’t just about titles; it’s about service, integrity, and making a meaningful impact. Leadership Under God’s Guidance Faith plays an essential role in my approach to leadership. For me, it’s not just about skills and experience; it’s about preparing under God’s guidance. Leadership should never be driven by titles, appearances, or nepotism. True leadership is about character and heart. I’m reminded of the story of David’s anointing: while others judged based on outward appearance, God looked at David’s heart. Likewise, when we choose leaders, we should focus on their character, not just their qualifications. As we prepare for leadership, it’s important to ask for divine guidance. We must open our hearts and allow for transformation where needed. Leadership isn’t just about leading others; it’s about becoming the person who is ready to lead. And when the time comes, God will position us in ways no one can obstruct. This is the kind of leadership I strive for, one guided by wisdom, humility, and purpose. The Need for Continuity and Support One area where leadership often falls short is in planning for continuity. A true leader’s vision and passion should persist even when they’re no longer in charge. Unfortunately, some leaders disengage entirely after stepping down, creating a vacuum that hinders organizational progress. Worse still are leaders who leave no plans or structures for a smooth transition, forcing their successors to start from scratch. Some may even deliberately sabotage the process, wanting their successors to fail so they can say, “I told you so.” Such behaviour is the antithesis of effective leadership. A great leader is sacrificial, committed to the organization’s growth even in the face of challenges. They must rise above criticisms, spite, or a desire for personal vindication, focusing instead on the collective vision. This includes creating exit strategies and fostering a shared vision that ensures seamless transitions and continuity. Building on a Solid Foundation Leadership transitions shouldn’t resemble political turnovers where previous plans and projects are abandoned. Instead, organizations must operate with a shared vision, with every leader building on the foundations laid by their predecessors. This ensures progress rather than regression. Leadership is a journey of growth, guided by introspection, preparation, and a commitment to serving others. It’s not about holding a title but about making a meaningful difference. Leadership isn’t about the spotlight. It’s about service, sacrifice, and ensuring that the path you pave today becomes the foundation for others tomorrow. Let’s commit to being the change we want to see, leading with integrity, and preparing the way for those who come after us. What are your thoughts on leadership and its challenges? Share in the comments below. I’d love to hear your perspective!

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Education and Society, Educational Resources

A Parent’s Reflection on Our Education System: Are We Building a Strong Foundation or Just Adding Pressure?

This is my five-year-old son, and I couldn’t be prouder. His handwriting is meticulous, better than my own, and he shines in spelling. After reviewing his work, he always wants to hear the word ‘excelente’ instead of ‘excellent. Yet, having observed the different pieces of homework that occasionally come home with him along with his 10 spelling words that he must know for his spelling test every Friday, compare it with my sixth-grade daughter’s workload as she faces the daunting PEP exams, I can’t help but wonder: What are our goals? Where is our education system leading us? I often compare our Caribbean educational standards to those of the U.S. and Canada. We’re expected to have our qualifications assessed if we move there, yet many Caribbean students find themselves academically ahead in these systems. I’ve seen students from our region make the honor roll abroad or even be labeled ‘gifted’—yet here, they were average. My son, who reads at a Grade 2 or 3 level, might be labeled a gifted child elsewhere, yet here he’s just an ordinary boy. Even students who may struggle in our system perform exceptionally in others. But this isn’t about saying one system is better; instead, I want to shine a light on some underlying issues that need addressing. The Glaring Inequalities Consider the school projects sent home for our kids. Although they’re meant for parental guidance, they often require much more than that, sometimes becoming a parent’s project. Teachers often reward work that is obviously beyond a child’s ability, giving higher grades to projects that clearly surpass what a child could accomplish independently. For kids whose parents may not have the education or time to help, this system is inherently unfair. Reflecting on my childhood, I remember not having family support for schoolwork. Whether I got it right or wrong, I was on my own, and I thank God for the quick learning skills I developed. But these inequalities go beyond parental involvement—they include vast disparities between schools in resources and access. Prep vs. Public: The Resource Divide The inequalities extend further. There are clear differences between resources available in urban versus rural schools and private versus public institutions. Students in prep schools generally enjoy smaller classes, specialized teachers, and a wealth of extracurricular activities, all of which we, as parents, pay handsomely for. Yet, I sometimes wonder if the curriculum was crafted with only the “haves” in mind. Does anyone consider the challenges faced by children in primary schools with larger classes, fewer resources, and less individualized support? Are we thinking about which kids are more vulnerable to adverse outcomes (gang involvement, illicit activities, unemployment, teenage pregnancy etc)? Who is more likely to face a challenging path, those with resources or those without? These questions stay with me as I consider the decisions made by people in high-ranking positions, many of whom have limited classroom experience and may not fully grasp the reality faced by students and teachers on the ground. Is there any consideration for the have-nots? Does anyone care? Where are we going? Who are the kids more likely to end up in gangs- are they a part of the haves or have-nots? Who are the kids more likely to be involved in other illicit activities? Who is more likely to become pregnant at an early age? Who is more likely to end up in the prison system? Are they among the haves or have-nots? These questions often come to me when I consider those who are sitting in their lovely suits making decisions for the classrooms. How many of them have taught in the classroom and how many of them have taught in schools where there are limited resources? Learning or Just Cramming? Then there’s the question of true learning versus rote memorization. Parents fork over extra money for additional classes, often extending into the evening hours. We want our children to succeed, yet the system seems focused more on test performance than on actual learning. During a recent parent-teacher meeting, I asked how one even begins to prepare for the Ability Test. I was surprised to learn that there is no clear method. The test includes questions that even teachers and well-educated parents find challenging. It’s surprising, as we were told that the test was suitable for a grade 4 student, yet some questions seem complex even for someone with a PhD. I find myself stumped by some of them. Am I dunce? Our kids deserve a system that supports genuine learning over memorization, a system that considers every child’s needs and doesn’t overlook the vulnerable. As parents, we continue to navigate this path, advocating for change and hoping that the future of education will be inclusive, supportive, and truly educational. Where Do We Go From Here? We have to ask ourselves some hard questions: Is the education system capturing feedback from teachers, parents, and students? Is it inclusive and accessible for every child? Or is it perpetuating cycles of inequality, making it harder for children from less privileged backgrounds to succeed? Our education system should empower children, not leave them feeling burdened by unrealistic expectations or disadvantaged by a lack of resources. As I guide my son through his early years and support my daughter through the pressures of Grade 6, I hold onto hope. I believe that change is possible if parents, educators, and policymakers work together to create an education system that serves every child, regardless of background. Let’s strive for a future where ‘excelente’ isn’t just a mark of achievement but a standard of equality, opportunity, and true learning for all.”

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Health & Wellness, Personal Growth

“Moving Beyond Monkey See, Monkey Do”

You’ve decided to step out of the shadows and carve your own path—no more “Monkey see, Monkey do.” You’re ready to embrace your uniqueness and embark on a journey that’s truly yours. Let me guide you through some steps that can help you craft this journey, starting with powerful declarations. I encourage you to repeat these whenever jealousy or comparison tries to creep in: Keep these declarations close, allowing them to center your mind on your personal journey. Now, let’s dive into some practical steps to help you move forward with confidence. 1. Self-Reflection and Introspection Begin by reflecting on your life, from childhood to the present. Consider your dreams, desires, passions, strengths, and values. What do you truly want to achieve? Why do you want it? When I was younger, my dream was to own a home on a hilltop. Although my life took different turns, that dream remained a constant. I eventually achieved it, not on a hilltop, but in a peaceful community that brought me joy. What do you desire? What is your dream? 2. Set Personal Goals Goal setting is essential. It’s not just about having dreams but creating a plan to achieve them. Take the passions and values you’ve identified and turn them into clear, specific, and achievable goals. Remember, these are YOUR goals—not something borrowed from someone else’s life. Write them down, break them into manageable steps, and set a timeline. For instance, if owning a house is your goal, start by saving for a down payment. Make a plan and be prepared to make sacrifices to achieve your dreams. 3. Embrace Your Talents and Strengths Identify what you do best. Each of us has unique talents, though we may not always recognize them right away. Focus on developing your skills rather than trying to replicate someone else’s. For example, my love for writing started with poetry and short stories, inspired by music and personal experiences. Even though I didn’t initially see myself as an author, I embraced my calling and sought support to strengthen my skills. Do the same—embrace your abilities and grow. 4. Limit Comparison Your journey is unique, with its own pace and challenges. Avoid comparing yourself to others, as you don’t know their resources or struggles. Stay focused on your goals, no matter how small your progress may seem. Your journey is yours alone. 5. Seek Inspiration, Not Imitation It’s okay to find inspiration in others, but avoid the trap of imitation. Be inspired by their success and learn from their experiences, but always ensure that your path aligns with your dreams and purpose. For example, if your goal is to own a house, learn from someone who has done it, but don’t try to replicate their exact journey. 6. Take Risks and Embrace Failure Stepping out of your comfort zone can be daunting, but it’s often necessary for growth. Don’t fear failure; instead, see it as a learning opportunity. Many successful people have faced numerous setbacks before reaching their goals. Take risks and keep pushing forward, even when the path gets tough. 7. Surround Yourself with Supportive People You don’t have to do everything alone. Surround yourself with people who support your goals and can help you in areas where you may be weak. Just like certain communities thrive by supporting one another, find your circle that uplifts and empowers you. 8. Stay Flexible and Adaptable Life is full of unexpected turns, and being flexible is key to navigating them. While staying focused on your goals, be open to change and adapt as needed. My dream of a hilltop home evolved into a peaceful community home due to life’s circumstances, and I couldn’t be happier. Flexibility allows you to adjust your plans without losing sight of your vision. 9. Stay True to Your Vision and Trust Your Instincts Create a personal vision statement that embodies your long-term goals. For me, it’s inspired by the words of Paul: “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” Let your vision guide you, and trust your instincts as you navigate your journey. Listen to your inner voice and the Holy Spirit’s guidance, and don’t second-guess yourself because of what others are doing. Your journey is your own, crafted by your unique experiences, talents, and dreams. Embrace it fully, and let your path be a testament to the power of individuality and purpose.

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Inspirational Stories, Personal Growth

Monkey See, Monkey Do: Get Out of Their Space, and Into Your Place

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to get caught up in what others are doing? I’ve read, watched, and participated in countless discussions about the jealousy, covetousness, and competitiveness that seems to thrive among my fellow black people. Perhaps this exists in other races and ethnicities too, but what I’ve observed and experienced often centers around our community. Phrases like “Monkey see, monkey do” and “Follow fashion dogs will catch mangy” are deeply ingrained in our culture. They capture the way some of us are quick to covet what others have or feel the need to move only when we see someone else make a move. Growing up, I heard these phrases frequently, especially around Christmas. I remember hearing stories of people rushing to buy new furniture or appliances because their neighbors did the same, only to have those items repossessed because they couldn’t afford them. I’ve seen people open the same kind of business right next door to someone else, selling the same products. Some might argue that it’s just a coincidence, that maybe they had the same idea all along. But more often than not, the general belief is that this mentality stems from a lack of originality—a tendency to follow rather than lead. As I’ve matured, I’ve faced similar situations and found myself wondering: Are we following others because we’re genuinely inspired by their growth, or is it just a case of “monkey see, monkey do”? To figure out where we stand, we need to take a deep look within ourselves and ask some hard questions: While these questions are just the beginning, they’re crucial in helping us understand our purpose and setting us on a path that’s truly our own. When we try to walk a path that wasn’t meant for us, we risk ending up in debt, stressed out, or failing because we never had a solid plan or the passion to overcome obstacles—because it wasn’t our dream, to begin with. It’s time to refocus and start mapping out your personal roadmap. Step out of others’ shadows and into the light of your own purpose. Stay tuned for my next blog post, “Beyond Monkey See, Monkey Do: Crafting Your Unique Journey,” where I’ll delve deeper into this journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

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